Monday, November 11, 2013

Adoption

Ever since we got my sister in our arms when I was 9 I had the desire to adopt. In 4th grade I entered an art contest. The theme was "imagine if" and you would fill in the blanks... most kids were saying things like, "imagine if money grew on trees" but not me. I said, "imagine if every child had a loving family" and drew a mom with brown hair and a blonde dad with kids of all different races. What 4th grader thinks like that?
Once I had Emma I thought all my babies would come this easy. I thought they would all take little to no effort... but this year and a few months has proven that I was wrong. Back in December of last year we were in the car on our way to Salt Lake for a wedding reception. I was crying because my period had just started and Brian suggested looking into adoption. I told him not yet, give me more time. Since then we have both felt multiple promptings to look into adoption.So after meeting with the infertility doctor we both felt that we shouldn't pursue any infertility treatments and look into adopting. We have so much love to give and there are so many children that NEED a loving family like us. If I was popping them out like I did with Emma the thought wouldn't cross my mind.
I needed infertility. I needed to learn patients, faith, hope, trust and to just relax. I needed to learn to enjoy what I have and be happy. I needed to learn to count my blessings. I feel I also needed it so I would consider adoption. We have spent hours praying, talking and researching. We feel this is what we should be doing right now in our lives.
Since we made the decision and have told a few people we have had mixed reviews. Some are so ecstatic and excited. They know what a miracle and blessing adoption is and feel that we would make wonderful adoptive parents. Others are not as supportive saying things like "you still have plenty of time no rush" "you are so young time is on your side don't jump into something" OK here is a heads up NEVER EVER EVER Say those things to someone struggling with infertility. You may not mean to offend but those words are hurtful. We are trying to remain positive and inform them that after much prayer we know this is what we should be doing... that kind of shuts them up. I tell Brian that most people weren't supportive of my mom and dad adopting my sister but once they got Maeley everyone loved her and was so happy they chose to adopt. I know that will be the same here. We just need to keep our chins up and have faith.
We know and understand we have a LONG HARD road ahead, and we know that there may be some heartache... but we know that this is right for our family. We know that our baby is waiting and that we will have so much love to share with it. We know that this will be an eternal blessing for our family.
We are starting the process and would ask for your prayers and support.

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